… feel like a day for settling in … to new rhythms. colder weather (thankfully yesterday’s snow was just enough to be fun and the roads were pretty dry this morning). and maybe … finally?! getting to the bottom of the to-do list I’ve been working on since before Christmas!
I read this in the Times this morning (from Gail Collins and Bret Stephens’ weekly column The Conversation, these are Bret’s words)
Social media has created the phenomenon of Together Alone … Only it’s the wrong kind of togetherness and the wrong kind of aloneness … The old togetherness taught people how to negotiate differences in communities they hadn’t chosen for themselves. And the old aloneness often entailed long periods of engaged solitude, like reading a novel or gardening or building a model ship. But the new togetherness allows us to select the communities to which we belong, mostly with people who like what we like, hate what we hate, and never challenge our assumptions. And the new aloneness often means scrolling among endless internet distractions without ever focusing on anything in particular. The result is that we now live in a world where people know neither how to be together nor how to be alone. It’s the ultimate recipe for unhappiness and bad behavior.
I certainly feel like my Together time has become a lot of what Bret describes. My Alone time, however, is still very much engaged solitude (I love that phrase). and I’m looking forward to settling in to a good bit of that, too!
I’m also reminded that today, when we honor the memory of Martin Luther King, Jr. is one that needs that “old” kind of Together Alone. community action based in love and hope.
What are you settling into this week?